​​ LGBTQIA Resources For Youth and Parents

Resources in Utah -- Coming soon for all states

This is an incomplete list. It will continue to grow through research and development.

Equality Utah:
  https://www.equalityutah.org/       

The Pride Center:
  https://utahpridecenter.org/

Mama Dragons:
  http://mamadragons.org/

Encircle:
  https://encircletogether.org/

Stand 4 Kind:
  http://www.stand4kind.com/



National Resources: 

Again this is incomplete - the first two are the best place to start. Anyone who cares about protecting LGBTQIA youth should go to these sites for critical information. 

The Trevor Project  https://www.thetrevorproject.org  

Gay and Lesbian Education Network:  https://www.glsen.org


LGBTQIA FOCUSED
DRUG AND ALCOHOL RECOVERY CENTERS:

These sites are an excellent resource for LGBTQIA and drug/alcohol abuse: REMEMBER -- drug and alcohol abuse occurs as a result of suffering and recovery/treatment for LGBTQIA youth and adults must be a safe environment which typically cannot be provided in a generalized treatment center. They also offer excellent information about the risks and unique situations faced by those who are LGBTQIA.

Drug Rehab.com:
  https://www.drugrehab.com/guides/lgbtq/

The Recovery Village:
  https://www.therecoveryvillage.com/resources/lgbtq/


​​ Unfortunately, although we think we’ve progressed and that we do not discriminate, this is not the case. Discrimination and homophobia exist in our schools and in our communities. If you are a parent of a child who is lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer/questioning, intersex or an ally of these youth, you need to ensure that ALL students are protected at school. Policies, procedures, and practices should all reflect the anti-discrimination language and be enforced - all staff and students must be held accountable. Follow the steps under the What You Can Do tab and the school advocacy tab.

Sadly, Lily’s depression came as a result of what she was seeing and experiencing at school. When students, teachers, and administrators are allowed to discriminate, children suffer. The culture of a school is set by many factors, but we can demand that the culture does not allow for meanness and bullying. However, this is a cultural problem and is being modeled for our youth. Schools and the social environment are the most critical environment for adolescents. Yes, it is critical that your child feel supported and loved at home, but even with that, the environment they face daily at school is even more important.

Talk to your children. Ask them what they are seeing and experiencing at school. Ask about bullying and how the students generally treat each other. Ask how safe they feel to report bullying if they see it. Ask if students are reporting in general, or if they feel that it is handled well. Ask if they feel safe. Listen to them. It is tough at times because children at this age are differentiating and talking to their peers more. Also, if they feel unsafe or have no faith in reporting, consider if they are being honest with you if they say it is “fine”. Lily told me she had “dealt with” the bullying she was experiencing. This was in part because she did not want me to go talk to the principal about it. She had no faith it would improve anything, and more faith that things would get worse. If your child feels this way, you can do something about it. Talk to your school and if there is a problem, or a problem isn’t being dealt with, or if they are unwilling to implement the Five Necessary Components for protecting all youth, consider your options. DO NOT underestimate (as I did), the power of how other people’s parenting can affect your child. Nor how at risk they are.

Ensure your school is addressing the fact that LGBTQIA youth are significantly more likely to experience bullying (both in school and online), as well as consider and attempt suicide. The connection between LGBTQIA youth, bullying and suicide cannot be ignored or dismissed as “high-elevation”. In many places, these children are suffering. Like all parents, I loved my daughter. She and her brother were the most important thing in my life, and the most important job I had (have). I tried to do everything I could, everything ‘right’ to support her. I wish I had understood the impact the situation at school was having on her. Lily put up a good front, saying she was ‘fine’ and that she could handle it. Be sure your children are really sharing the reality of what they face at school.

If your school won’t address these issues, do not underestimate how much negativity and meanness they may be witnessing or facing. Ask for help from your community. If this fails, you may find it necessary to change your child’s school, move, or homeschool. Our school did not have GSAs (Gay-Straight Alliances). Since her death, they have been started. I think they could’ve given Lily hope and been a place of empowerment for her. If your school does not have GSAs, start them! Talk to teachers, school therapists, after-school clubs, local Pride groups regarding forming them.

The resources above are just a beginning. More will come soon. If you are in a place where there is a Pride center, take your child there and see what resources they have for both of you! Be sure to connect your child with other LGBTQIA youth and adults. If there is no Pride center, seek out LGBTQIA people in your community and ask them about creating public support for LGBTQIA youth.   



MORE COMING SOON:
  • Other general sites for LGBTQIA youth empowerment
  • Links to LGBTQIA support and advocacy organizations in your state
  • Links to GSAs in your state - ask for help getting one started and connect youth in nearby GSAs and statewide to foster empowerment
  • Links to health and mental health issues specific to LGBTQIA youth
  • Book lists for parents and youth
  • Articles on issues surrounding LGBTQIA youth
  • Blog posts and podcasts discussing current LGBTQIA issues, statistics, states failing and states doing well… and more